Heal to truly Live

             Let’s talk about healing your heart. Whether from events of last year or events farther back in the past, let’s heal as a way to live more authentically. It’s 2021 and we just left what seems like the year from hell. And for many of us, that year has seemed to bleed into this one. 

Let’s Heal

             Healing is hard. Healing requires you to acknowledge that there is a wound and where it came from, which is the alcohol. It burns, terribly. And the bigger the wound, the worse it feels to see it, sit with it, and start the process. But it must be done. Believe me, you will thank yourself so much for it later. But right now, yes, it sucks. But do it anyway.

Here are ways you can begin your healing journey:

Write a letter to your younger self.

Most things we need healing from don’t always come from our current or past relationships, but often something from our childhood (maybe it was the reason you got into that relationship in the first place). We coined them as “mommy and daddy issues” but really there are deeper-rooted traumas that we either suppressed because we didn’t know how to deal with them, or because we didn’t want to.

Either way, writing a letter to your past self addressing the trauma and drama that took place is a good start. Allow your younger self to feel and be free of guilt… that’s a big deal. Or even writing your younger self a letter and letting her know what has happened to you since those years and vowing to be the person she needs you to be now…that’s a big deal too.

Therapy 

Having a sounding board, someone objective to talk with and provide useful tools and mechanisms to unpack and deal with your trauma…a BIG deal! Therapy does not have to be taboo, but I will not speak too much about it. But, as a person that has been there and done that for 3 years, I would recommend it for the reasons mentioned above.

Be single!

In all seriousness, sometimes sitting with ourselves, learning how to be alone and love ourselves is a healing process in and of itself. I used to be a serial relationship-er for all the wrong reasons: mainly for fear of being alone with myself. Upon being single for…well you don’t need to know the amount of time…but it helped me figure out who I am, what my triggers are, and why I was triggered by them. I couldn’t latch a feeling on to a person I was with. I had to address my shit.

Have tough conversations.

We cannot shy away from healthy and tough conversations. Sometimes we need to be told about ourselves and be able to internalize it without guilt. Sometimes we need to hear how someone else feels. But we also need to be vulnerable, stand up for ourselves, and let people know how they have hurt us or triggered us. Of course, this is not the case all the time, but this can be apart of the healing process at various stages.

There are countless other ways to aid your healing journey and things to do in the name of self-care. Above are just a few that I have done that have helped me live more intentionally. Speaking of…

Heal to Live with Intent

             Living with intent is a direct result of healing and knowing more about yourself. I don’t think you’ll ever know yourself entirely, because you are always changing (especially if you are healing). But learning more about yourself and keeping up with yourself is as good as it gets!

When we know ourselves, we start to make decisions that directly boost our happiness and impact our future in a positive way. When you heal, you don’t continue doing the very things that caused wounds or suffering in the first place. You make better decisions, pick better partners, and you may even stop coping habits like drinking or smoking. 

In my case, I stopped self-harming and picking bad partners!

Choose to Live

            Your healing is imperative for you to live authentically and intentionally. Address your wounds, then dress your wounds. Heal your heart, so you can start living with your heart.

Written By:
Jaymee (of Finding Jaymee)
Growth, Positivity, and all the things